INFORMATION FOR NEW SUBMISSIVES:

Dear New Sub:

Many thanks for visiting my web site.  If you are new to BDSM, or if you are veteran scene player,
the most important element of a private session with a professional Dominatrix is open
communication.

I want to make sure that a session will be as enjoyable as possible. I also want to develop the
right chemistry with a potential submissive. For this reason, the more I know about your
interests, desires and fantasies, the better time we will have. Please be straight forward in
describing your expectations. I know you are submissive, but don't be bashful in telling me
what you want. I am sure I have dealt with your particular fetish before.

I have had extensive training from several great Dommes and I have had an opportunity to
perform at BDSM clubs in New York, San Francisco, Philadelphia, Baltimore , Washington, LA,
San Diego and other cities. I have been fortunate to develop friendships with several unique,
sincere and highly intelligent submissives. I am sincere in saying BDSM is both my profession
and my lifestyle.

I am a truly dominant woman and my favorite sessions are when a sub experiences both pain
and pleasure. I am especially pleased that my skill level is now sufficient to master the mental
aspects of BDSM, which are the most important.

Read this Before You Come to the First Session:

(Editor's Note: The article below was written by V. Elliot and it originally appeared in
Domazine. It has subsequently appeared on several Internet sites. The observations are
outstanding and I believe they are worth repeating once again. This long article has been
slighted edited for space purposes, and the author can be contacted at
v_elliot@mailcity.com)

"There was just something about a villainous woman zipped into a form fitting shiny black suit.
Long before I was even really sure what sex was, I discovered a very peculiar feeling building
inside me anytime Julie Newmar appeared on the television screen during afternoon syndicated
re-runs. More often than not, she was tying up some hapless superhero with intent to cut him in
two with a giant circular saw. Too bad she never got away with it; that meddlesome Batman
somehow always managed to ruin her sadomasochistic fun, and mine. Little did I realize
that funny little feeling would stay with me to this day. "Not until much later in life did I accept what
that feeling meant and became aware of the opportunities that existed to act on it. I met my first
professional Dominatrix by responding to a small print ad in the back of one of those alternative
lifestyle weeklies. There was no photo, only a short description and a phone number. I was lucky
and got more than I had ever hoped for. It was an experience I'll not soon forget.

"Nine years later, professional Domination has come out of the back of city rags and into the
mainstream. Fetishes and sadomasochism have been around forever, but at no other point in
history has there been so much media dedicated to the subject. Professional Dominants have
traded in their distorted Polaroids and misspelled ads for first-rate studio photography and
corporate quality print layouts.

"Dominatrices with a certain amount of notoriety have recently turned to the World Wide Web,
followed by hundreds of lesser known women ready to cash in on the submissive stampede.
Web pages range from stylish, well designed numbers to something little Jimmy could have put
together in fourth grade computer class. It seems that any hooker with a wooden spoon and a
bad attitude is calling herself a Dominatrix these days.

"This, of course, is good and bad for the submissive within us. Whether you are an hour a month
client or everyday slave, your choices are practically limitless. Making the right choices, however,
is often the key to ensuring a good experience. Keep in mind that being a good Dominatrix isn't a
matter of putting on thigh high stiletto heeled boots and a bitchy disposition. It takes skill,
intelligence, imagination, a genuine interest, and experience. The same can be said for being a
good slave.

"Here's some advice from someone who has been playing for about nine years, has met
numerous Dominas, and only has a few bad experiences to whine about.

"Be selective: Find out as much information as possible about the Dominatrix you wish to meet.
The quality of a print ad or web site will usually indicate the quality of the Domina. The ad does
not have to be something out of Rupert Murdock's wet dream, but it should contain a few recent
photos and up-to-date contact information. She should also clearly state her interests,
equipment and wardrobe available, a description of her facilities, and her experience level. In the
event these are not what you're interested in as well, find someone else. Always beware of ads
with cryptic information or no photographs.

"Be responsible: Call her when your told to do so, or within the times she has set aside for this
purpose. Be brief and to the point on the phone, and don't ask too many detailed questions
...you'll sound like McGruff the Crime Dog. The same applies to e-mail contact. Be prepared to
wait a few days for an appointment. "With the exception of multi-Domina houses, you're not likely
to get an audience in the next five minutes. And for God's sake, take a shower, shave, slap on
some deodorant and wear some decent clothing. How would you like it if she came to the
door in Wrangler cut offs and flip-flops smelling of last week's garbage? Sure, if you're lucky
you'll be taking your clothes off soon enough, but first impressions are everything. I view meeting
a professional Domina no different than meeting a first date. If you're not sure about gifts, ask.

"Don't be cheap: Paying for professional Domination is no different than paying for any other
activity you enjoy. Forgetting about the thousands of dollars a good Domina will have invested in
equipment and wardrobe for a moment, you are paying for her skills above anything else. If you
want to bargain shop, you'll get what you bargained for. It's also a bad idea to come up with
some sort of bartering arrangement on a first meeting.

"You may be able to paint like Picasso or cut wood like Norm Abrams, but keep that to yourself
until a later date. She may have no interest in such arrangements and you'll look like you're trying
to get something for nothing. Never offer a bartering skill you can't live up to or one that is dime a
dozen. Every guy in a French maid's outfit wants to clean Mistress' house.

"Don't be shy: One thing a Dominatrix isn't good at is mind reading. You'll be in for a huge
disappointment if you show up, mumble something about your foot fetish, and then get sixty
minutes of boot worship. They've heard everything before and nothing you can possibly say will
shock them or cause you any embarrassment.

"If you like having your face flushed in the toilet, let her know. On the same token, be very explicit
about your limits or concerns. Never fake experience if you are a novice. Most Dominas enjoy
beginners as long as they've researched a little and know what might interest them.

"Important note here: learn to separate fantasy from reality. What you fantasize about may be
totally different when it's happening for real. I may dream of being some beautiful Goddess'
personal toilet, but do I really want to eat someone else's feces? Not.

"Keep an open mind: I've met my dream Domina time and time again, but those feelings come
during sessions and are not based on any particular physical attribute. I am not saying that
appearance does not play a major factor in my decision to see a particular Dominatrix, it does,
but it's not the only motivation.

"She may be the most beautiful woman you've ever seen, but if her interests and experience
level don't match your own, you'll be very disappointed. You may desperately want to submit
before the girl on the cover of this month's Vogue, but it's unlikely she would be a very good
Dominatrix. Keep yourself open to new experiences as well. A Dominatrix may be particularly
good at something you may not have given much thought to, but later find you enjoy immensely.
Setting rigid rules to play by or offering set scripts will stifle her creativity. Let her dominate
you. It is, after all, what you came for.

"Be respectful: Yes, you are the paying client and entitled to have your fantasy, but that does not
give you permission to become pushy or belligerent. Do you boss around your doctor and
lawyer, or do you respect their rules of engagement and advice? Whether you are a masochist,
fetishist, or submissive, you are there to submit on some level. Be submissive and respect her
rules.

"Be realistic: Chances are you're not going to get involved in any kind of personal relationship
with a professional Dominatrix outside of the dungeon. I'm not saying this cannot or does not
happen, it has, but keep yourself and your feelings in perspective. It's very easy to become
infatuated with your Mistress, but unlikely she will feel the same way. Dominatrices are people
just like the slaves who serve them. They have other lives, other interests, and other friends.

"Avoid cyber sex: E-mails that begin with "I am a slave and will do anything you want" will get you
laughed at. State your name, a brief description of yourself, general experience level, some
particular interests, and perhaps a short four or five line fantasy. A Domina on the web probably
receives hundreds of e-mails per day. The last thing she wants to read is pages and pages of
mindless dribble. Make yourself stand out as having the potential to be a good client and she
might make you her favorite slave.

"Communicate: Talk with your Mistress. If a Dominatrix is not willing to take a few moments
before and after meetings to discuss the session or the weather, I won't return to her again. Try
to avoid the "after orgasm ego adjustment" and let her know what you liked and didn't like, or just
thank her for a wonderful experience.

"Offer some things you might like to try next time. Ask her questions about some piece of
equipment she has or compliment what she is wearing. Dominatrixes are proud of their
equipment and wardrobe, and will usually be more than delighted to talk about them. You won't
win any brownie points by zipping up your fly and leaving with a "later babe."

"Most importantly, have fun! Dominance and submission is about having fun. Personally, I view
professional domination as the opportunity to live out fantasies and escape for an hour or two.
Whether you like it or not, you have to return to the real world when the session ends. There are
deep psycho-sexual motivations at work here, but don't wrap yourself up too tightly ... she'll be
more than happy to do that for you."
Miss Anna D.